Releasing Resistance to Shine Your Light —Overcoming Fear & Shame
As a therapist and teacher, I was conditioned to undervalue my worth and overwork myself. These limiting beliefs followed me as I scaled my private practice, even after hitting the six-figure milestone. I noticed a hesitation to dream even bigger, to allow myself to rise above the bare minimum of struggling.
Why? Well, a few reasons…
I feared I wasn’t good enough.
I was afraid to do it wrong.
And, the big one… Because I feared the judgment that might come with reaching a higher level of income.
But here's the truth: Everyone deserves to live a comfortable life and have the means to contribute to causes they believe in.
No one should be barred from the joys of existing. Morality politics that equate being hardworking with being a "good person," or that conflate disability with character deficits, are not things I support.
Yet, I've been perpetuating these harmful attitudes within myself for far too long.
Do you ever feel resistance to doing what really lights you up?
In a recent episode of Align & Shine, my biz bestie Meryl Hayton and I dove deep into the topic of resistance - what it looks like, where it comes from, and most importantly, how to release it so you can step into your brilliance.
Resistance often stems from core beliefs of not being enough. We get caught in fear, doubt and limiting patterns that hold us back from our dreams and keep us stuck in self-sabotage. Through powerful somatic and spiritual approaches like EFT tapping and energy clearing, we can begin to transform these feelings into gems of wisdom.
In this conversation, I realized my own resistance was showing up around taking my success to the next level. Even though I had already achieved things like building a six-figure business, I noticed hesitation to dream even bigger because of fear of judgment.
By tuning into the physical sensations of this resistance in my body, I had a huge aha moment - the Judgemental Part of me hangs out in my eyebrows! As an Internal Family Systems and Parts Work practitioner, I work with myself and others to recognize the subtle ways our wounded parts of self show up in our lives. This was an exciting discovery because now I have an awareness that tension or tingling in my brow area may indicate judgement.
Today's conversation with Meryl brought all of this to the surface in a powerful way!
I will continue removing the masks I've been hiding behind and embrace my worthiness to thrive. This includes giving myself permission to experience abundance in all forms - financial, emotional, spiritual - without shame or apology.
I know this is a journey, and I'm committed to continuing the inner work to rewire these patterns. It's not easy to unlearn the conditioning of undervaluing and overextending ourselves, but it's so necessary for our well-being and the impact we can have in the world. We can't pour from an empty cup, after all.
If you've been resisting your own greatness and abundance, I invite you to join me in this vulnerable exploration.
Start by getting curious about the fears or beliefs that may be fueling your resistance.
Connect with how they feel in your body.
Breathe into them, and begin to release their grip with each exhale.
Remember, you are worthy of so much more than just barely getting by. Your unique brilliance is needed.
And if you want to participate in tapping on your own resistance, you can watch the full episode of Align & Shine: Releasing Resistance here.
The main points I hope you can take away from this episode are:
Resistance is a normal part of the human experience. Don't make it wrong when it shows up.
Get curious about what limiting beliefs, fears or doubts are fueling your resistance. Awareness is the first step to transformation.
Notice how resistance feels in your body. Connecting mind, body and spirit through practices like EFT can help clear it out.
A certain amount of resistance, like a rubber band effect, can be positive when released - but too much will snap you back hard. Aim for balance.
Tune in to signs, synchronicities and your intuition to know when your resistance is coming from ego vs your highest self.
Make releasing resistance a consistent practice and stay focused on your goals and desires. Repetition rewires your patterns.
If you found this episode helpful, I invite you to subscribe to the Living LUNAs YouTube channel for more discussions to help you clear out the muck and shine your light.
Keep breathing, keep releasing, keep shining.
With love,
Safrianna Lughna
The Queer-Spirit Guide
Are You Ready to Connect with the Sweetness of Your Soul?
If you're ready to take off the masks you've been hiding behind and step into your full power and potential, I invite you to explore my SOUL SUGAR program. This transformative 3 to 6-month journey is designed and tailored to you based on your own goals, rhythms, and cycles. The deep, multifaceted approach of my S.E.A.S.O.N.S. framework will help you discover the masks you put on yourself that either keep others happy over yourself or keep you stagnant and compassionately remove them so you can flourish at your highest level. SOUL SUGAR is to be a sacred container for profound deep self-discovery, healing, and alignment with your soul's truth.
Together, we'll dive beneath the surface of any resistance, fears, or limiting beliefs that have been holding you back from embracing your worthiness to thrive. We'll unpack your unique sacred design, clarify your boundaries and desires, and co-create a vision for your life that sets your soul on fire in the best of ways.
Through a blend of therapeutic techniques, somatic practices, and spiritual exploration, we'll help you rewire old patterns of undervaluing and overextending yourself. You'll learn to tune into your body's wisdom, trust your intuition, and give yourself permission to experience abundance in all forms - without shame or apology.
This is your invitation to step out of the shadows of playing small and into the light of your most radiant, empowered self.
It's time to remove the masks, reclaim your voice, and shine your brilliance unapologetically.
If you feel a resonant YES in your body as you read this, I encourage you to book a complimentary SOUL SUGAR Discovery Call with me.
Let's explore what it would look and feel like to walk forward in joy, creativity, and alignment with your highest vision.
Your soul is ready for this quantum leap. Trust that nudge, and let's connect.
All my love. —Safrianna
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